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Controlling Your Passions

How to Let Your Emotions Work In Your Favor

"For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace" ~ Romans 8:6

No one can argue the fact that television, the internet, movies, and even books are filled with so many inappropriate graphics and lewd words that can really tarnish a person's perception of life, family, and the way people view the world. Just imagine a teenager, young child, or even a person working hard to live a life pleasing to God, trying to decipher what is acceptable and what is not. There are so many subtle traps in any and every form of communication that can cause even the bravest soldier of the cross and life to stumble. So what help is there for people stay on their course to become children of God that are not only sayers of the word but doers of it? Well, the answers are found in God's word:

The Bible says in James 1:20, that "Human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires." Emotions, like our mindset, and actions are influenced by the "Fall of Man." Hence, our desires are fueled by different views of how life should be, and the way we were taught to embrace life.

It goes without saying that effective or ineffective parenting has a lot to do with how children learn to express their emotions. For one, silencing a child is never warranted or even lying to a child about the right or wrong way to view life. The fact is more and more children are rebelling because they have no outlet to express their emotions. Children, teens and young adults are fed up of being restrained, lied to, and taken for granted. Hence, we see all of the upheavals, and unorganized protesting which eventually leads to many casualties resulting in death, destruction of schools, buildings, and even businesses that work hard to provided products and services that we so desperately need.

Currently, there are so many proposed interventions, programs and ideas to combat such occurrences but the truth of the matter is the real answers lie within the four walls of the home. The way parents treat and address their children is key. The audio lesson below addresses the way parents need to communicate and address a child, to help them become responsible people who learn how to balance and exude their emotions in a healthy manner. Here' s link to the actual podcast here:

Now listen, please understand that your emotions and thoughts are valid. You feel the way you feel for a reason. Your hormones are active, and your environment is just as active and very influential. So, don't ignore or brush how you feel under the rug, rather express them in a controlled setting; meaning you are safe to express your complete thoughts and emotions with a person, or people who are non-judgmental, and who understand you. I know this may be a long shot for some but, you will never know who is willing to be that listening ear unless you ask; besides a parent, you have extended family, a teacher, counselor, pastor or close friend (one that is trustworthy). 

I know now a days, there aren't many people who are trustworthy, but you can pray and ask God for discernment to point to that someone who will listen, hear and understand you. (If you have no one at all who is willing to be your support or accountability partner, you have ME! I am here for you. You came to this page for a reason, so you are welcome to explore it. All of my contact information is on here. I am available for coaching, and support! Feel free to fill out your contact information and I will get back to you as soon as possible, usually right away or within 24 hours.) You too have to put in some work to learn how to trust your judgement on who to trust with your inner most thoughts. You also have to work at communicating better so you can become better, and not miss opportunities for promotion, elevation and transformation. You can become that unstoppable being, for that can and will change the world around you for the better. Know that you are unique but yet still like the rest of the people who you think are so different. Hey, we all feel, bleed red blood, breathe in air, eat food, and are in need of love and affection. Success isn't guaranteed, but for sure living life like it's worth living is all the success you need.

The sum of it all is this, we can let our emotions work in our favor by being true to them, and protecting them by expressing them honestly to those who value them and for the right reasons. Sometimes, we just have to speak up. Silence isn't always golden, and the truth is many families need to know that the art of communication is their best asset. Learning how to trust, having patience, and understanding will carry you a long way. No one is an island by themselves, so regarding the feelings of another is priceless. We must think before we speak, and in this modern era, think before we post!

Remember, if a person cares about your feelings, chances are they will care about what matters to you most. From there you can build a healthy relationship, one worth emulating and perhaps one day inviting another human being along on your journey to your higher self, and this is called parenting! By controlling your passions, you will be able to let your emotions work in your favor to balance life, family and have a chance at an authentic existence.

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. - Leonardo da Vinci

Love and Light,

Crystal E. Melville, Th.D

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