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Wellness for Women Over 40 Series: Part 6

Feminine Sexuality

· Sex,Women,Feminine Sexuality

Honestly, talking about sex is not the easiest thing for most people to do, male and female alike, but no matter the discomfort we have to come to grips with talking about the obvious, sexuality. Feminine sexuality is a topic that must be had, and I'm sure you would agree, needs a little more respect. You see, sex by name, and by action is probably the most abused in all of the human existence. For, its sole purpose is misconstrued, elasticated, and taken way out of context even in the simplest conversations. So, can we talk about sex? How do we express ourselves sexually without being seen as a whore, or not being sexual enough? Is there a right and wrong way of expressing our sexual desires?

Listen here to my personal thoughts on sex, and how it's really hard to find the balance to discuss it safely and openly:

Answer: There is always a wrong way and right way to express our sexual desires. The key is to do so safely, with informed consent, within a union where there is love, respect, and exclusivity.

Accordingly, states the following as it pertains to sexual desires, sexual immorality:

Rather than prohibit sexual pleasure, the Bible shows that it is a gift from God to married people. He created humans “male and female” and viewed what he had made as being “very good.” (Genesis 1:27, 31) When he brought the first man and woman together in marriage, he said that “they must become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) This bond included the pleasure of sexual intimacy along with a close emotional connection.


The Bible describes the pleasure that husbands find in marriage with these words: “Rejoice with the wife of your youth . . . Let her own breasts intoxicate you at all times. With her love may you be in an ecstasy constantly.” (Proverbs 5:18, 19) God also intends for wives to enjoy sex. The Bible says: “Husbands and wives should satisfy each other’s sexual needs.”—1 Corinthians 7:3, God’s Word Bible.


Limits on sexual pleasure

God reserves sexual relations for marriage mates only, as Hebrews 13:4 shows: “Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.” Married couples must be faithful and maintain their commitment to each other. They find the greatest delight, not by pursuing selfish gratification, but by applying the Bible principle: “There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.”—Acts 20:35.

Overall, the main issue affecting one's decision to approach the topic of sex is simply having a safe environment to do so. Currently, there is so much pressure more than ever in society to engage in all forms of sexual immorality: namely, oral sex, anal sex, fornication, adultery, and homosexuality. If one party or group of people are for a certain activity it is now appalling to have open and honest discussions about sex and more so to venture to teach the acceptable way to engage in sexual conduct.

I mean, can we not see that there is a reason why we have such escalating crime rates in the area of sexual assaults such as rape and many forms of sexually immoral acts against one's will.

Society clearly has no boundaries, and surely no real living examples anymore especially if churches and leaders alike give into the need to make everyone equal in their sin. #LoveisLove, but when you top it off with sexual immorality, clearly it is merely a selfish kind of love. But who can come against a very rebellious world, and dare state their thoughts on how we should handle the topic of sex? I know, a true believer in God and his purpose for sex. We read above how we should handle the topic of sex, and one another in our thoughts, words, and action, so let us work hard to be that example for others to follow and emulate. Let's raise our children with a healthy balance of knowing who they are sexually, and how they deserve to be treated. Feminine sexuality is truly a place of power, may we use it well.

"We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love." ~ Tom Robbins

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As a bonus, you may read below to discover answers to some of society's gripping questions. Remember, it's healthy to open these discussions.

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Love and Light,

Crystal E. Melville, M.A., CPC

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